The moderators have the power and the right to end this discussion, but I hope they do not do so...Because we are fans of WCBB, and because we have a ringside seat to so many peripheral issues that affect both the coaches and the players, and, most of all, because the issues being discussed are so important to our mutual understanding of these issues (way beyond the TS and girlfriend matter), the discussion, by its very nature, is really quite healthy.
The central issue being discussed concerns the nature of victimhood, what constitutes consensual relationships, who "earns" the lion's share of the blame in matters such as this one. I submit that this is not simply a semantic matter. One of our fellow posters, sarals24, very articulately makes the underappreciated point that no matter how voracious the appetites of either party in a relationship, that relationship cannot be considered consensual in any traditional sense so long as the power structure going in is hugely tilted one way or the other. She's not talking about legality here, just basic ethics. It does not matter, for example, how much a secretary is googoo-eyed over her boss... any relationship between the two that might ensue is tainted by the non-level nature of the playing field and cannot, therefore, be deemed truly consensual.
I can hear folks rushing to articulate their disagreement, but allow me to illustrate the point by offering another example: I am a retired doctor. Over the long course of my career, I have been witness to many cases of doctor/patient relationships that have crossed the line unethically. By far the most egregious of those involved so-called mental health professionals, psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, etc., who violated the most sacred position of trust imaginable by dallying with their vulnerable patients. In such relationships, the fundamental issue of "transference" is always in play (look it up). But transference, and hero worship, is in play in an extremely wide variety of other relationships with uneven power levels...sure, some students may wish to "bang" the professor for a better grade, but these things aren't always about trying to achieve some kind of illusory quid pro quo. Sometimes the professor allows his or her ego to be flattered in ways that, ultimately, cannot be condoned. Between coach and player, c'mon...no semblance of power equity there!